What makes us a women?

I just finished reading a book about women and their souls. as i was reading it yesterday while i was at a school that has six shows i was reading it outside and these two girls cames out. i am totally assuming this but i believe they were a couple. Anyways i started thinking about what makes us a women and i started thinking about my own struggle in life. We try to dress like a guy and some of us decided to live the lifestyle and date and some of us go as far as getting a sex change but by doing all of that does it change the core of who we really are? Does it give us different desires? Does it take the hurt and pain away? i couldn't help but think about how i was interwoven with my soul and no matter how i dress or the choices i make i am still me and i still have the desire to be loved and i still like romantic movies and i still like to cook and clean. We were all created to be women and no matter how "manly" we try to be we will always be a women and we will think like a women and we will have women qualities because we are women. i think you all should pick up the book that i read. it has helped me accept myself more for who i am. it is called Ruby Slippers by Jonalyn Fincher.